When San Francisco 49ers quarterback Jimmy Garoppolo took adult actress Kiara Mia on a date in Beverly Hills back in 2018, the paparazzi went on full alert and the gossip media took note of the outing but remained mute at the time. However, when the 49ers made it to the Super Bowl, the story was exploded by TMZ.
However, I’m left to wonder if the dustup was more about which porn star he took on a date, rather than the fact that he had the courage to let the world know the kind of women he prefers by showing up in public with her?
What I’m questioning is this: If Garoppolo had taken a blue-eyed, blond, thin of lips and thin of hips, Stormy Daniels-type porn star out in public instead of a lusty, busty, dark-haired 41-year-old Latina beauty, would the reaction have been the chorus of hissing and booing he’s been subjected to of late? My next question is, would pundits still be asking if the quarterback was “sex-crazed” (as well as getting hit with other derogatory commentaries) if instead his date had adhered to Nordic — read “Aryan” — standards of beauty?
After all, innumerable credible surveys indicate that 96% of all males view porn, which means some fantasize about the adult actresses and would like to bone their favorite ones. So why is this guy being dissed in such a vociferous and ugly manner? Is it because he’s fortunate — or famous and rich — enough to live out his porn fantasy? Could this simply be a case of old-fashioned player-hating, or is there something culturally deeper going on here?
Sex has played such an integral, powerful role in American racism, going back to the time of slavery, that it’s hard to ignore or minimize its effects. Indeed, many posit that the majority of the current animosities between black and white Americans have to do with — or are because of — sex. For centuries whites had their way with our women, and their fear since Emancipation has been that we would want to extract retribution by having our way with theirs. A black dude I knew back in the day that dated multiple white women at the same time used to say, “Yeah, I keep them around like pets.”
During the ’70s, when the porn industry really began to take off, I was living in Los Angeles (the epicenter of the skin flicks was the San Fernando Valley, not many miles from downtown L.A.) and knew some of the people that operated both behind and in front of the camera. The industry was — and to a degree still is — unabashedly racist, with many of the white actresses flat-out refusing to perform with black actors, fearing a backlash from their white fan base. Their thinking was evidently, “I might be a ’ho, but at least I don’t screw black guys (at least in public).”
But with the rise in popularity of porn stars like Kiara Mia (who does have sex with black guys on-screen — yes, I checked for myself), the dynamic is changing. The most desirable women in the world are no longer Eurocentric in looks, and when superstar athletes like Jimmy Garoppolo go public with a hot honey of a duskier hue, the verdict is in: the world is changing, and black and brown truly are beautiful. This obviously bothers the hell out of some people: particularly those who want to “Make America Hate Again.”
